How MS is Changing Our Future, Not Dictating It

I’m 22, and I’m making a fool of myself. “Will you marry me?” I ask. Not on bended knee, or over a candlelit dinner. All the time. A bad day, a lull in the conversation, a moment of happiness — multiple times a day, I causally propose marriage to Ken, my boyfriend of four years. He

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Not Scared, But Certain

Ken and I celebrated our four-year anniversary this Sunday. It was the first time we had ever celebrated our anniversary together; this year, the date happened to fall during my Spring Break, and thanks to an amazing deal and my dad’s air miles, I was able to fly to the Netherlands to be with him for a

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A is for Anger, B is for Beginning

I’m not an angry person. I don’t like fighting, I shy away from conflict, and even my constructive criticism is coated in several layers of kindness. But since Ken’s diagnosis, that’s changed. They say the second stage of grief is anger, and it seems to be true for me. Suddenly, I have a bitter streak.

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I’m Thinking of Getting a Tattoo. Or Buying Sheets.

When it comes to relationships, our culture likes to focus on firsts. First kiss. First love. First time. You hear about them from your friends, and see them on TV. You wonder how they’ll be when they happen to you. But here’s a first I never heard much about, or expected: first diagnosis. First breakdown

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The Post-Diagnosis Happiness Manifesto

Just under a week ago, my partner Ken was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. With his diagnosis came a brand new to-do list: tell family and friends. Contact work to talk about options. Make appointments with a specialist. Look into treatment. For me, the diagnosis also came with a new list of daily tasks. Until Ken’s relapse is over,

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Unequally Yoked

This weekend, I was lucky enough to fly to the Netherlands for two and a half days to see my lovely boyfriend Ken for Valentine’s day. Ken and I have been dating for almost three years. When I found out I was accepted to Oxford, one of my first thoughts was how much easier it

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The Love I Miss

I get a few responses when I tell people I’m in a long-distance relationship. My favorite is, “Oh, that sucks.” (Thanks!) My favorite picture of us. Old men have a tendency to interrupt our best pics. In some ways, it does. It’s difficult to maintain love and intimacy when there’s an ocean between you. But

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Long-Distance Love: Man Plans, God Laughs

Two and a half years ago, almost two weeks to the day before I wrote my first blog post, my high school boyfriend and I broke up. It had been planned, and mutual – we didn’t want to do long-distance – but it still hurt, as it always does to say goodbye to someone who

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